Peter Pan, 2003
We’ve all been through it–growing up is hard. When I recall past pains in the process I think of Peter Pan and how I used to wish I had the same luxury of putting everything on hold indefinitely. Disney’s Peter Pan was one of my favorite movies growing up, and if you have seen Hook or the 2003 Peter Pan you know they are both worth watching.
When I ask myself why growing up was so difficult at times, I believe (for me personally) it was because I was forced to question things I had been raised to believe. Certain lessons in life unnerve you, and you lose the illusions of security and the absolute truths you once had. There is so much to learn about yourself and the world–as the common phrase goes, the more you learn, the more you realize how little you know.
In the 2003 film, Wendy alludes to this “growing up” business when she asks Peter if he’s ever wondered what it would be like. Nervous and frustrated, he asks why she has to ruin their playtime and pretend with such a question. “We have fun, don’t we?” he asks, “What else is there?”
“There is so much more,” Wendy replies, alluding to the entire experience of growing up and becoming aware of ideas and concepts you weren’t before–love, pain, etc. In Wendy’s mind she knew she would one day grow up and fall in love, gain a new family, and she recognized that it would involve new feelings and a sense of responsibility she couldn’t fully understand until many years later.
The whole reason I bring up this scene is because it reminds me why the human experience of growing up and becoming an adult is ultimately worth it–yes, I will face the full range of good and bad experiences in life, but they will collectively form me into a person of wonderful depth. At least, I hope so😉. Growing up truly is about opening yourself to all of life–the beauty, the pain, the hurt, the loss, and those wonderful moments of accomplishment and fullfillment you reach.
One last point. Encountering each experience and the passing of years will change me as a person. Friends and family have mentioned to me, “You seem different,” and I have heard this phrase in various increments since graduating from high school. To this comment I usually reply, “YES! I certainly HOPE I am different from when I was in high school! I hope I am wiser, stronger, and have a thicker backbone.”😉
Growing up means you will change. A lot. As in more than once. Life is a series of changes, phases, and stages, and I am no longer afraid of evaluating my current beliefs or behaviors–I now understand they will be challenged through experience!
SO, what I am trying to say is that I have chosen to embrace the inevitable experience of growing up and seeing where life takes me. As Peter says, “To live would be an awfully big adventure,” and I don’t intend to miss out on any of it!